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New Wine, Old Friend

15 Monday Aug 2011

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I hadn’t seen T in a long time.  How long?  Long enough that his condo had accrued a layer of brightly colored plastic baubles and other loud toys that are safe for a toddler.  I still have not met this toddler, but her impact on his life is difficult to underestimate.

I usually pass on Italian wines.  I either can’t afford them or I find them…dull.  Well, that is, they’re generally quaffable. I don’t think I’ve ever tried an Italian wine that wasn’t at least “ok” but it seems to be quite the effort to find any that rise above mere table wine.  And look, there’s something to be said for a reliable drink that suits nearly any supper.  But the usual montepulciano or sangiovese is a bit awkward by itself; even a bit of cheese or chocolate won’t quite suffice to hide the fact that an Italian red is primarily refreshment to chase one’s meal.

So I can’t quantify the impact of a child (I won’t even try), but I wanted to properly contextualize finding a delicious new wine to appreciate. Colosi’s 2009 Nero d’Avola surprised the hell out of me. Really, I was figuring I might have to pour myself a small glass and leave it on the counter for at least an hour before it filled out to something I wouldn’t mind drinking while T and I got caught up.

It’s also a bonus on top of being a pleasant surprise from another friend.  First, it was her birthday but she gave me a present.  Second, even if she felt she owed it to me, I’d completely forgotten about the story of hers that I edited a while ago. Third, well.. remember that “wine snob” thing?  If I’m never given another bottle of Sutter Hill or Charles Shaw it’ll be too soon.  But hey, gainsaying that moniker was my lack of familiarity with nero d’avola.

At T’s house I offered the Colosi, I must say, without a lot of confidence.  That’s perhaps something more ingrained in my personality than I like to admit. It could be a wine, it could be a subject I’ve been studying, it could be my driving or my memory of a particular scene in a movie: I frequently find qualifiers in the information I’m giving if not complete statements designed to distance myself from representing what I just said with full faith and diligence.  Doesn’t really matter why, so long as I don’t try to compensate with over-confidence.  But my friends, good people that they are, breeze right past it.  And T and I dug into the nero d’avola and were readily impressed.

In a few ways T’s appreciation was the harder win – he’s not a big fan of red wines.  Likely the fact that Colosi barrels this nero d’avola in steel instead of oak contributed considerably to the initial pleasure, but T and I kept passing the bottle back and forth over a smoked gouda and later the orange chicken and mixed vegetables that made dinner.  It was such a pleasure that I forgot to leave a little for dessert – a bar of Swiss milk chocolate.  Now that’s saying something!

But back to old friends: It always struck me when I was a kid that my parents didn’t get out to see their own friends terribly often – and that’s without appreciating the scheduling contortions they had to go through to pull off visiting.  In a way it prepared me for the idea that adults can’t take friends and time spent with them for granted.  I saw my friends every day at school.  At college we lived a few blocks from each other and hanging out was a given.  Even the first couple of years after graduation it was easy enough to see each other.  But by and by chaos introduced itself to the system.  One friend had a child, another got married, another left the state for a job….  It’s the way things go, and it went on until I found myself hosting dinners in my tiny bachelor apartment just so I could see my friends.

It can be a little jarring to think of T as a family man.  I remember the guy in college with whom I stayed up late pretending to be vampires and pretending we were all bad ass because, well, that’s the kind of people we were…are…whatever.  We gamed, watched movies, traveled to events around the state attended by like-minded dorks, took care of our friends and generally grew up.  And I know first hand it can be a little jarring to look at one’s personal evolution and find not only embarrassment but pride that somehow, against all odds, we became the sort of reliable, upstanding folks society would call adults.  Well, T did anyway.  He got a whole private school to rely on his computer tech expertise, sought and earned an MBA, bought a condo, married his girlfriend and set about having a child.  Laid out in a sentence like that it sounds extremely simple, but anyone who’s ever attempted anything remotely like it knows no solid bullet point is made without a lot of hidden blood, sweat and tears.  I may stick to the highlights but it’s because T actually accomplished them.  I could be wrong, but I think that’s the definition of “respectable.”

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Wine Pairing: vino y vida

11 Thursday Aug 2011

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Long ago my friends learned that I will answer to “wine snob.”  It’s because it’s funny to me.  I’ve put a little bit of effort into knowing wines and over a dozen years that continual effort has turned into a moderate amount of knowledge.  It’s not like I’ve taken any classes, I’m lackadaisical about reading up on varietals or trends or such (the only critic I keep up with is the New York Times’ Eric Asimov and I usually skim his columns).  Even when I’m flush with cash I balk at paying more than $30 for a bottle unless it’s a knock out.  I’m well aware that my minimal efforts leave an extensive body of knowledge beyond what I know and that “real” snobs have a price point usually twice my line.

Nonetheless, I’ve become known as the one who brings wine to the party, wine to the hangout, wine to the dinner table.  For this my youngest brother once accused me of turning French.  Little did he know that my favorite offerings to bring with me to any old meet-n-feast is fine bottle of pinot noir (Schug maybe?) paired with some raspberries and blackberries, a creamy cheese (oh who am I kidding, brie) and a French roll.  Or maybe I’d make a meal of a heady zinfandel (just polished off a great Bogle, but Seven Deadly Zins will always be my go-to when I don’t want to think too hard), hard cheese (aged cheddar or smoked gouda), garlic crackers and maybe some salami – any zesty Italian dish works, really – and wrap the whole thing up with chocolate.

I’m not a dedicated foodie.  I’m don’t feel up to what I consider true connoisseurship.  I hesitate to even make rules for myself, knowing I’ll just break them because that’s what I do.  So even as much as I wish I could just eat food that I enjoy savoring and always avoid food that doesn’t meet this lone metric, I’m fine with tossing back a passable, cheap wine with a sandwich.  How about with pizza that tastes just like the cardboard box it came in?  Oh what the hell, as long as I didn’t pay for it.  But bad wine is bad.  Never order the wine at Sizzler’s.  Trust me on this one.  Life is way too short for crap wine.

Probably the least amusing assumption about me as a wine lover is that I mightn’t also like other alcoholic drinks.  I admit, I have a limited appreciation of bar drinks.  I know maybe a dozen mixed drinks that I like but I really don’t know most mixers.  I’d be an utter failure as a bartender.  However, I like scotch.  Perhaps even love it.  Not great for pairing but good for before and after meals and during any slow points in the middle.  But a few friends of mine have staked out the rich ground of scotch snobbery, so I don’t have to.  Thus I don’t like to say what expressions I like more than any others, but I have found I like a good Isle of Islay, say the Ardbeg, pretty darn well.  And further proving I’m not the scotch snob, I really like bourbons, appreciating the sweetness as well as low price.  Bulleit is as reliable as children losing balloons at the county fair.  Finally, I dig a good rum and it’s hard, maybe impossible to beat Pyrat.

It’s just, if I’m going to put it in my mouth I should enjoy it, I figure.  The only guidance I go by when it comes to figuring out what to drink next is a pair of questions: 1. Was that tasty?  2. Seconds?  Still, friends expect me to be ready with wine recommendations.  I don’t understand why.

I drank a lot of wine in 2007

Wine and Sympathy

21 Thursday Jul 2011

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The day had been warm, even a little muggy around sunset.  But by late night it was chilly out on the porch. M and I shrugged on coats that would have been unbearable when we were away from the porch.  We drank a crappy cabernet sauvignon – I had meant to bring quite a good pinot noir but had rushed out of the house without it – and chain smoked her Virginia Slims.  We blinked back tears.

We don’t get to pick our families but we do pick our friends.  Well, I guess.  I don’t think it’s a particularly conscious choice.  But we group up with people with similar…something.  Attitudes? Priorities? Outlooks?  Sometimes, but not always, I just end up hanging out with whoever invites me over.

Animals, though, don’t pick friends and their actual relatives are soon enough taken away.  Pets come into a home and adjust as they will.  A dog or cat warms up to someone each in its own way – or doesn’t warm up, each in its own way.  The pack tendency in canines makes it easy to see their relationships in a household.  Outsiders are judged individually for fitness as a part of the extended tribe.

Or at least, that’s how it felt with Ahab.  She barked the first couple of times that I came over. But the reactions of M and the others to me convinced her to stand down.  After that, when I came over she would run to the gate or the door to see me in. She didn’t jump into anyone’s arms or dance, she was far too dignified for that.  Though she made no secret of sniffing hopefully at any grocery bags.

Sometimes I would sit on the lower steps of the stairs to the porch, alone and lost in thought.  She would come up to me then, bring her muzzle close to mine and stare into my eyes.  It didn’t matter if I was just wandering inside my head, pointless poking at some esoteric idea, or if I was grappling with pain and anxiety, her huge gold-brown eyes would bring me to the present.  She waited patiently until my eyes locked on hers, until she knew we were present to the same moment.  Then she would lick my face.

At the HP Haus, what I call my forward operating base and my home-away-from-home, Ahab was notorious for a certain regal cuteness that somehow never put at odds her tendency to  beg for beer with her typical posture, alert to any threats to her pack.  She didn’t want anything to do with my wine, but boy would she give me Pleading Puppy Face for a bite of cheese.  One evening, not that long ago, M and I spent the evening over some wine, cheese and blackberries at one of the stone tables in the Haus’s backyard.  We sat catty-corner to each other, smoking and chatting.  Ahab sat between us, facing M. At every opportunity she gave M The Eyes.  When M would turn away would no response the brazen dog would reach a paw up and gently poke her.  After the second or third time M addressed Ahab directly telling her in no uncertain terms that she would not be eating human food, Ahab stood up, shifted around and repositioned herself facing me and redirected her begging to me.

The sweetness, the protectiveness, the I got your back-ness, the patience and occasional utter cheek are all attributes I’ll always think of as characteristic to the HP Haus. It’s a locus in my extended tribe.

I lean pretty heavily on M at times, because she invites me to do so, and because I have few other options.  It’s a tiny world and each one of us isn’t really that far away from any other one of us.  A toast, friendship, the bond of shared stories, a cool evening on a porch; these are worth relishing.  It all goes by too fast, otherwise.

I miss you, Ahab.  Thank you for letting me into your tribe.

Haus Guardian, Ahab

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